We can only receive if we do not send. When I go to someone from whom I want to receive, I have to be rock-solid sure that I want that someone to give me something and that I want to accept exclusively. To someone who I think knows just as much as I do or who knows the same as I do or even less, I don’t need to go at all. I will always send in this case. I will send my opinion and I will compare what he says with what I know. I will weigh his words and relate them to my knowledge. I will judge whether I think what he says is good and right or not. So I can stay right at home if I think that I cannot learn anything new anyway. It is the same when someone comes to me and wants my advice or support. If he comes to hear what I have to say and to see what he thinks about what I am going to propose, or if he explains his problem to me directly, including the necessary steps to solve it, and wants to discuss a differing view on my part at length, then what we can achieve and what he can take away will not be very great. The (self-)abandonment of his self is not yet far enough advanced. It is not yet necessary with him. If someone comes to me who is up to his neck in water, who is at the end of his rope, who is at the end of his strength and who only wants to be allowed to receive the solution to his problem, however, no matter what, he is in the right condition to take great things with him. He is beyond discussing and debating. He is aware that his self could not help him in this situation and – gets rid of it, gives away and thereby accepts. Unconditionally and without his ego having to send.
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