The ego needs the limitation by other egos. If it does not experience this limitation from the beginning, then it becomes boundless. This is especially the case when it experiences a lot of pain in this unlimited development. If the ego is not limited, then it floods the soul in its pain. If the father is absent in a family and the mother does not have a strong ego, then the sons often become bullies. They are so unlimitedly caught in the pain of their ego that they turn it against the mother, the soul force that does not strike back. Can turn it without danger. Because, since their soul is flooded by the material mind, they are weak and seek out the even weaker one. Terrorize him with the threat of rage and of destruction. They restore a balance that was lost by the loss of the father. In their family, they oppose the mother’s emotional strength with the father’s lack of ego. Only they do it in an immature and inexperienced form. Without greatness. Only with fear.
That is, only matter can limit matter. Only ego can diminish ego. This is the masculine chivalry that protects the soul femininity from extinction. The soul rests as the bottom of the shallow lake. The ego is the water that covers this bottom. How full the lake is and how much of the bottom can be seen on the surface, how much of the bottom becomes beach, is decided by the rain. The water from above. That is the justification for commandments, that is the reason for fathers. The restraint of egos. The restraint. Only: It must not remain that the lake is simply moderately filled and much beach can be seen around it. Seeing is not enough. If the beach is there, then the one who has always only swam must be led to walk. To walking on the warm soft sand of his soul. Fathers and commandments alone achieve nothing if the space created by their limitations is not filled with soulful knowledge. If we remain only in the battle of egos, then nothing is gained. The goal must be the realization of security.