„Laying hands on“ does not work. If the pendulum of consciousness is too deep in pain, then nothing can be „done“ about it by „doing“. One’s own view of security is then no longer sufficient to make the pendulum swing in the other direction. The light is no longer sufficient to refresh and strengthen oneself. In this case, only light from outside helps. The knowledge of the security of someone outside. Healing through the pure presence of someone who has enough light and who is willing and able to share it. Who can love. In the spiritual, not in the conventional sense, mind you.
If it stands only a little in the pain or the consciousness pendulum has the own impulse to swing also again more into the area of the soul, then the human being can free himself from the pain by force of his own consciousness. Or better: is freed, all by itself. In the end there is nothing to „do“.